What’s a big mistake some people make, especially on a Friday night?
It’s Friday night. Phew! The weekend is finally here. But I wonder, when you get to the weekend, do you fall into an exhausted heap?
Do you get to the end of the week and all you want is for someone else to support you, to give you a big hug when you feel like you’re falling apart, and to pamper you when you’re struggling to care for yourself. In fact, you’d love them to meet all of your needs – to feel loved, safe, secure and cared for.
I get it. I used to collapse in a tired, mushy heap on the weekend, and hope that my husband would make me feel better. But it never really worked.
My years of studies in coaching and psychology taught me that it is a very risky strategy to look to your partner or bestie for what you’re wanting or needing.
As an adult, you are responsible to care for yourself. To make sure your own needs are met. I love teaching women how to do this. It’s one of the modules in my Calmly Confident Roadmap.
When you walk into a room today, I invite you to become aware of the energy which you are bringing into the room.
Think about it. Have you ever walked into a room and the person or people there are stressed out? As soon as you walked into the room, you felt their energy. And, if you’re a highly sensitive person like me, you probably started to get stressed yourself, for no reason other than you picked up the stress in the other people.
Let me tell you a little story. I was quite tired recently, and I was about to meet some special friends for lunch. I hadn’t seen them for a while so I was really looking forward to seeing them.
And yet, on the way there, when I asked myself “What energy am I bringing?” I realised that I was bringing tired, lethargic energy. And if I walked into the room like that, I’d bring down the mood of the whole group.
So what did I do? I put on some boppy music in the car and sang along loudly all the way there.
By the time I arrived, I was in a good mood and I felt so much more energetic. I was ready to bring some hopeful, joyful, loving energy to our gathering.
So how about you?
What energy are you bringing to yourself?
How could you change that energy, to be the way you’d like to be – for yourself and for anyone else you might meet?
So I invite you to pause right now and ask yourself – What energy are you bringing to yourself in this moment? And is that the energy you want? If not, how might you change your energy?
The Shy Woman's Coach, guiding shy and sensitive women from nervous stress and FOMO to calm, confidence and connection. With playful curiosity and self acceptance, come and take small steps towards living with joyful flourishing.