Were you awkward like me?
I wonder – what was your earliest experience of social awkwardness?
One of mine was at preschool, aged three. Every day I would play with a girl called Ruth, and I was very happy playing with my one friend.
Until that dreaded day when everything changed!
Are you trying to “fake it ’til you make it”?
If you’ve ever been told to “fake it ’til you make it” as a strategy for overcoming shyness, you’re not alone. This common piece of advice suggests that by pretending to be outgoing and confident, you’ll eventually become just that.
Do You Have Shy Regrets?
Do you have shy regrets?
Moments you wish you could go back and replay?
And do you want to know how to avoid that in future?
There are 3 main pillars which work together to keep us feeling shy and behaving shyly: what we think, how we feel and what we do.
A simple way to retrain your brain
Did you know that that 75-80% of our thoughts are negative?
And that 95% of those thoughts are repetitive?
That’s what psychologists and neuroscientists tell us.
That we think about the same negative or worried or stressful things over and over.
Does that surprise you?
Pause for a moment and what is the first thought that pops into your brain?
What message are you giving?
Do you see yourself as shy?
Do you struggle to understand how life works; the way other people seem to?
As you walk along the street, do you wish you weren’t always stepping out of the way?
Well, if you said yes to any of those then this is for you.
Let’s Talk Shyness!
Are you shy? Do you feel that you’re somehow different from other people?
Do you worry that no one really
understands you? And have you noticed? No one seems to want to talk about shyness. Of course not! For us shy people, it feels embarrassing.
Can you be a shy, sensitive woman and proud of it?
Do you freak out about speaking in a group? Do you see people stand up and present, looking calm, cool and collected and wonder how they do it? Do you wish you could give a presentation with confidence?
Will you hide at home this weekend?
Is your social life different nowadays, compared to before the pandemic? Will you be out having fun with family or friends on the weekend? Or will you be hiding at home? Are you spending more time at home alone than you would prefer?
