HOW TO CREATE LASTING CHANGE
Do you wish your life was different?
Do you sometimes look at your life and think that you want to get fitter or slimmer or healthier or sleep better?
Do you want to be well-read or to learn a new skill or hobby or language?
And if you’ve started to make that change in the past, how long did it last?
A day? A week?
I have lots of experience making lasting changes because 15 years ago I was what I now call a couch potato. I was completely unfit. I was a bit overweight. I was eating quite a lot of take away and processed food. I was playing computer games until late at night, and then not getting enough sleep. And I was getting colds 2 or 3 times each year.
Fast forward to today, and I’ve actually changed all of these things.
Today I eat lots of healthy foods. I’m slimmer and fitter. I’m getting to bed earlier and sleeping more soundly. And even though I’m 15 years older, I actually have more energy today than I did back then, so it’s easier to get out of bed today than it was back then.
So how did I do it?
I did it with very tiny changes. Today there are well-known books about it. Like “Tiny Habits” by BJ Fogg and “Atomic Habits” by James Clear – and many more.
But actually, if you think about it, we’ve always known the basic principle, which is – make changes gradually, a little at a time. One small improvement each day. And as soon as that change has started to become a habit, add another one and another one.
Over the past 5 years, I’ve watched my coaching clients doing this, creating little changes which make their lives healthier and happier.. I find it so exciting to see these women blossom.
And what’s the tiniest change you could make, starting today? Make it so tiny that it’s actually easy to do. Like maybe one minute of meditation or exercise or reading, as soon as you wake up each morning. Or name 3 things you’re grateful for, as you get into bed each night.
Remember – Make it so tiny that it’s easy and then do it.
And I encourage you to set an intention to keep on doing it for the whole week, until you’re doing it out of habit. And then add another little change.
Imagine how your life might be in a year’s time, if you keep adding small habits, even just on each week? Imagine how you will feel! Imagine what you’ll be able to do, and how life will be different!
And remind yourself of this image each time you hesitate with your latest little change. You’ve got this!
The Shy Woman's Coach, guiding shy and sensitive women from nervous stress and FOMO to calm, confidence and connection. With playful curiosity and self acceptance, come and take small steps towards living with joyful flourishing.